Permohonan untuk kebenaran berkahwin

Salam and good day. As you've seen in previous posts, DrummerBoi has elaborated very well on how are the procedures to apply for marriage registration (for men). Today, I wanted to proceed for my part, but encounter few problems.

First, thanks to the groom's side, the forms are well done BUT they left out one small thingy at the very last part. By right, after all the things (mentioned in the previous post) have been done, the groom (without the 2 Saksi) is required to apply for Kebenaran Bernikah and this need to be approved by Pegawai Nikah/Rujuk/Cerai from JAIS (in my case, because I'm staying in Selangor). After getting that 'green light' form, only the Penolong Pendaftar Nikah (PPN) is allowed to support bride's application. Lucky me, I've known the PPN since we were kids, so since my Wali, and 2 Saksi were already there, he just proceed for my application and I promised to get it to JAIS soonest possible. FYI, marriage registration can only be done from Monday-Thursday, up to 4pm at your nearest Jabatan Agama. So without wasting anytime, I rushed to JAIS in Shah Alam, guided by my BIL. Thank you, Dilai.

I reached about 10 to 2. So I waited with many others, to get our visitor pass. Go straight to the 2nd tower, on your right from the car park, OK? I went to 6th floor, submit his forms, and get the approval from Ustazah Zanrinor. Paid RM10. Went to 1st floor for my turn for approval, only to realize that my wallet was only filled with coins. So I rushed to the 2nd tower, to withdraw cash. (Don't worry if you forgot to bring cash, like me. There's a Bank Islam ATM machine at Ground floor). That's not all. Guess what, after photostating the documents in the morning, I left the original copy of Sijil Kursus Perkahwinan & HIV test at home. Yeay. But Alhamdulillah, the sister said I need to attach the original documents later, during the actual Nikah day. Phew. Ustaz Lyros gave the approval for Kebenaran Berkahwin after gone through the forms and documents from the groom's side. Paid RM10. He then, gave another sheet of form for me to fill in, and this is required for Nikah on the actual day. This form is to be submitted to the PPN, recommended before Nikah, in case there are still some missing information. And then, finally, Ustaz Lyros said "Dah boleh nikah dah", with a smile.

The weather is extremely hot, today. Alhamdulillah, the process went on smoothly. The End.

Mapped!

On Wednesday, we met up with Tinkris and Niwa at SACC to discuss about the unfinished business. So far, everything is OK and I gained back my trust with them after being convinced by Tinkris. Apparently, Niwa and I have nothing much to say and I am relieved with that. Only that, I'm a bit frustrated with the payment term, as it was my mistake too for not considering the terms carefully before signing it. I am not pleased when we have to pay the full amount before the event, because what if we are not satisfied with the service? We can never get a refund. But Tinkris has promised to give their best and I have no choice but to give her my trust.

LadyBoss and I have been quite busy sorting out the names and invitations to be sent. Please expect some late delivery, everyone. I am now learning to let go some of the things, and not thinking too much whether the cut is straight, the glue sticks or the paper is not folded on the corner left. *sigh*

Finalizing the guests list is somehow very challenging. Since my invitation card is hard-covered and thick, we try to minimize postage. Whoever live near our area, we'll dash to their place with a bundle. The first bundle has been sent to JB, people! By hand! Woot wooot~

I'm proud to say that my Nikah invitations were done by sincerely yours (",). It may not be superb and perfect, but I'm quite satisfied with it. I hate doing the map, but think that I've improved since I first drew it few years back. Heh.

At first, I thought of sending the design to my favourite printer, but due to time constraint and all, I decided to print them myself. It's pretty easy. With some basic knowledge of the softwares, I created the map using MS Visio, and the wordings, printed on the other side was done in Adobe Illustrator. 1 piece of A4 paper produced 6 cards. I bought 3 colours of A4 hard-type card, and printed on my LBP2900. One of them stuck halfway, so I had to monitor piece by piece when printing. And the result? ...

I only printed on 1 piece of blue paper, since I think these 2 colours (pink & purple) are more than enough at the moment. If they are not, I'll just print a few more on the blue ones. Of course, I did not cut out one by one using that blue scissors. Thanks to my 12"x 10" paper cutter, the cutting job was 'sap sap soi'!

In the middle of the hectics, my girlfriends did a little something to surprise me. Thank you ladies for reminding me that I should panic right now for not having anything complete! Nice nice nice! Ok, I should go now. Need to prepare for the despatch tomorrow. Oh, and we just got ourselves our very own 'Champagne'! Don't get me wrong, it's not the drink. Thank you, Yokoi~

Teh serai @ Lemon Grass Tea

Can't wait to go popo-artsy! Weeee~

The best cheesemuffs in town personally baked by Dahaisu & her ma'am. Love love love!

Surat permohonan kahwin (belah lelaki)

Salam...


Post ini hanya sesuai untuk lelaki yang hendak berkahwin dan menetap di Selangor tapi IC di tempat lain (KL, Kedah, Penang dan sebagainya). Macam aku. IC aku KL (tak tukar-tukar sejak awal 2000!!) tapi duduk kat Selangor. So, bila kes macam ni, aku kena sediakan 2 borang yang berlainan.


1) Borang pengesahan permastautinan. 
2) Borang permohonan kebenaran berkahwin (Lelaki)


Borang-borang boleh didapati di: JAIS 


Ok, bagi menyelesaikan borang no 1, korang kena:


i) Isi borang tu dengan lengkap.
ii) Cari 1 orang saksi yang boleh mengesahkan yang korang duduk kat Selangor. Siapa-siapa pun boleh. Macam dalam kes aku, aku letak nama ayah aku sebab aku duduk dengan dia. Senang.
iii) Salinan IC pemohon dan saksi. 
iv) Kalau takde sangat member yang nak tolong jadi saksi, buat salinan bil elektrik, Astro, atau sebagainya yang ada nama korang dalam alamat tempat korang duduk. 
v) Mintak tandatangan dan COP RASMI dari Ketua Kampung atau Ketua Persatuan Penduduk atau Nazir masjid (bukan surau) tempat korang duduk. Setiap kawasan ada masjid tersendiri.


Macam aku, aku mintak Nazir masjid kawasan aku tandatangan sebab Ketua Persatuan Penduduk Taman aku takde Cop Rasmi. 


Ok, selesai 1 bahagian. Bahagian kedua pulak, korang kena:


i) Isi borang tu dengan lengkap. Pastikan korang dah tau kat mana nak nikah sebab alamat tempat nikah tu nanti akan ditulis di dalam borang permohonan tu nanti. Dan pastikan korang tau nama penuh, IC dan alamat pasangan sebab akan ditulis di dalam borang tersebut.
ii) Cari 2 orang saksi. 2 orang saksi ni tak kisah siapa2. Perhatian: 2 orang saksi ni bukan dan tak semestinya saksi pada hari pernikahan nanti. Saksi yang ini hanya untuk mengesahkan bahawa korang belum berkahwin atau pun belum mempunyai isteri sekarang. Saksi-saksi ini juga mesti hadir dan tandatangan di hadapan Penolong Pendaftar Nikah nanti. Salinan IC kedua-dua saksi ni juga wajib ada. 
iii) Dokumen-dokumen wajib iaitu Sijil Kursus Kahwin dan Resit Pengesahan Ujian HIV mesti ada disertakan sekali bila jumpa Penolong Pendaftar Nikah.
iv) Penolong Pendaftar Nikah. Tak tau sape? Rajin-rajin pergi masjid dan bertanya pada jemaah di situ. P.P.N ni akan teliti satu persatu maklumat dalam borang dan akan mintak saksi-saksi tandatangan termasuk kita depan dia dan akhir sekali dia akan tandatangan dan KEMBALIKAN segala surat serta dokumen kepada kita.


Next step? Serahkan kedua-dua borang (Pengesahan Permastautinan & Permohonan Kebenaran Kahwin) serta segala dokumen kepada pihak perempuan. Biar dia setel pulak. 


Tak paham jugak? Sila layari laman web JAIS, di situ boleh download dan print borang-borang di atas. Tak payah pergi pejabat JAIS semata-mata nak ambil borang. Buang masa dan duit. 


Ahlan Wasahlan. 


Selamat berjaya!

Still in pieces

This is the current progress. A lot of things need to be cut, wrapped, written, stamped, and many others need to be ... done!

Ribbons cut into 25cm length, with trimmed edges.

One of my mega projects. Only 1/6 is complete. Wish me luck!

Credits to Yadina & Hubs for bringing these back safe!

These are the favours for my reception. For the akad ceremony, it will be much easier cause there won't be DIY stuffs. Only put everything in the small pouch. :) Will do that once my 700pcs is done!

Ok, back to work!

Ciao.

Pissed.

Today, some people really managed to push my RED button.

It started since yesterday, when Niwa told me her e-mail to me was bounced back and ask if my e-mail address written on my namecard was correct. After giving her a lesson to send out successful e-mails, we managed to communicate smoothly. Being a person who likes to express my anger in the most kindest words, I think I did well, as always. Especially to a young lass who just cannot admit her mistakes, I just go with the flow, hoping that she'll learn in the process.

And after a few attempts of calling Su from D'Renjis (because she promised to return my call which she didn't even after 3 days), she told me the happiest news I could ever imagine. Just to let you know that I last visited the boutique in May, and the tailor said I could come for fitting in June. But I decided to call them up 3 days ago, why? Because I'm a super-bionic-wonderfully patient customer. So I can tolerate with some overdued deadlines. As long as those people know what they are doing. And Su just spilled out to me that, guess what, "baju tu tak jahit lagi lah".

*Smile*

"HUH? tak jahit lagi?"

"Hak ah. Semalam K.Ani kata tak jahit lagi"

"Habis tu bila saya boleh fitting?"

"Erm, lepas Raya boleh tak?"

*paused for 3 sec*

"Lepas Raya, bila?"

"Erm... 15 hari lepas Raya?" //*my solemnnization is on 14 Syawal 1431H*//

"15 hari lepas Raya??? kak, saya punya wedding 2 minggu lepas Raya, kak. Akak nak saya fitting lepas kawen ke?"

"Err, tak. Erm, 15 hari sebelum raya, eh 15 hari puasa boleh tak?"

"Berapa haribulan tu?"

"Erm, dalam 25?"

"25 August?"

"Hak ah."

"Ok."

I am a simple person, you know. You just give me a reasonable timeline, and perform. And I'll be the happiest person alive. But if you give me craps, you'll definitely get shit from me.

Checkpoint.

About 2 months to go.

But why do I not feel it coming?

I tell you why.

1. Niwa from SACC Convec has not get back to me since our previous meet up. - Can you imagine? She was supposed to update me of the seating layout/PA system/finalized menu/etc. Ok, she did call me up few days after our last meet up to confirm that we could not pay the parking fee in advanced for the guests as it is beyond her authority. And that was it.
2. Neither Su nor Kak Ani called me up to update about my outfit. And I have yet to confirm my dais decor. - I'm definitely giving them a call tomorrow and hope that they did not miss my dress sketch under that pile of papers I saw in April.
3. I am still undecided on what to wear on the 1st day. - Alter or brand-new, I'm just not sure.
4. I am still undecided on which hijab to wear on the 1st, 2nd and 3rd day. - Ok, I haven't even bought the material yet. Sue me. Now!
5. Favours - not fully wrapped, yet!

Maybe all of these can go on smoothly once I got my ADS working! Or at least the lab technician do some mercy on me.

You don't have to understand that last statement. I was just mumbling. So much for the updates.

*uhuk uhuk*

Clock-ticking. And then it halts.

Just when you thought everything went on great, think again. I think most of the young couples getting married are so eager to get married, having fun for the preparations and buying stuffs, but ignored the fact that they are (or will be) mentally-challenged in all sorts of way. I kid you not. Getting married is indeed a new big step in your life. Yes, it's NEW and BIG. You can never imagine what your life would become after that 'SAH' is ... ~sah! I now think I understand why there were tears in brides and brides mothers' eyes soon as the procedure is done. For the brides : No more compromising for us. Your husband will be the final NO or YES in all decisions. For their mothers : It's because they have been through all those. So, that's why. Of course, there are a lot of disagreement and discussion being done before entering that different life, but your partner would usually comfort you with "Don't worry, babe. I'll be by your side and we'll go through this together". Pray harder. Maybe your partner will actually do as he/she says.

Why am I blasting all these? Because obviously I am experiencing the peak of madness+insanity in my life as a B2B. I cannot understand how a man could be more mature than us but acts as a 5-year-old kid when it's coming to arguing over an ice-cream. Some people have told me that the person's name resembles their character. For example, Aishah means Lively, and Jamilah means Beautiful. Well, I believe so. Because apparently what we speak out everyday is a du'a. So if we were to call Jamilah (beautiful) by her name (not shortforms like Jam, Milah, Jamey), I truly believe that she will turn out to be a 'beautiful' lady throughout her life, be it physically or by her characteristic. Very unfortunate for me, neither of our names (my partner & I) spell 'PATIENCE'. For those of you who are named 'Sabri' / 'Sabariah'. Alhamdulillah. Good for you and the other half.

Of course everyone's life is kinda hectic at the moment. You wish to have someone by your side to really share it with and laugh about all the stupid moves you've been doing for the past few weeks. But sometimes we have to realize, we are living in the real world. Not everyone is thinking the same as you do. No one could actually understand how it feels like being in your shoe. Yeah, who can? When there are times even YOU, yourself cannot interpret what's been going on in your own life?

Heh.

So yesterday was another progress of my preparation for my reception. But, I just do not feel like writing it down here. Simply because I do not know if it's even necessary to shout out publicly about it, when the person who I supposed-to share it with, doesn't even care or bother. Maybe I am going into that new life, alone. With an invisible man next to me. Don't get me wrong, he is there. Just that he's not really.

And you must be freaking happy right now because all your plans seem to work fine. Good for you!

p/s : this is labeled under 'Procedure'.